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Post  punzy on Fri Oct 21, 2011 6:30 pm

Prudie's first letter is all about how giving a baby up for adoption is selfish and not "seeing it through". I wanted to smack the woman.

(I'd post a link but it won't let me yet)

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Post  Unlucky Bear on Fri Oct 21, 2011 6:33 pm

DAMN IT. I was beaten to the punch by about 30 seconds for restarting my favorite thread with that exact same Prudie column. Well played, madam.

But yes, that column was insane. I don't understand Judgey Sister one bit....she thinks her sister is irresponsible for giving her kid up for adoption because she thinks the family can pitch in and raise it? But also thinks her sister is a hoor who should be punished by raising the kid herself? Frankly that kid is way better off with a loving adoptive family.
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Post  The Glen on Fri Oct 21, 2011 7:03 pm

She didn't seem to realise that she had no say in her sister's decision whatsoever. It's one thing if she had her own opinion on what she would do in that situation, but she thought she had a right to impose it on her sister. Weird.

The link thing is awkward, but I'm not sure we can change it. In any case, it's a good anti-spammer device, so it has its uses.

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Post  punzy on Fri Oct 21, 2011 7:31 pm

Unlucky Bear wrote:DAMN IT. I was beaten to the punch by about 30 seconds for restarting my favorite thread with that exact same Prudie column. Well played, madam.

Mwahahahaha!

But she is willing to babysit while her sister is in classes! That makes it so much easier to be a parent at 21!


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Post  VodouDoll on Sat Oct 22, 2011 10:08 am

Why don't people get that babies shouldn't ever be punishments? That's the impression I got from the LW, that she thinks her sister has been irresponsible and now it's more important for her to be punished than it is for the baby to have a good life with parents who want it and are prepared.

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Post  Miss Moneypenny on Sat Oct 22, 2011 12:39 pm

What an awful idea, to use an infant as a punishment. It sounds like she doesn't particularly care about her sister's life or the baby's life, which is pretty crappy considering they're her FAMILY. Imagine how she treats non-blood relatives!
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Post  Genevieve on Sat Oct 22, 2011 5:24 pm

This sister sounds absolutely bat-shit. It is amazing how she fails to see what an incredibly difficult and loving decision her sister is making. I am so glad Prudie gave her what for.
It's shitty enough that you are in a less than ideal situation and you are going to do something very brave but to add in a family member who is telling you that you are making the wrong choice and you are being selfish for it? Sweet Mary.
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Post  Gilraen on Sat Oct 22, 2011 6:33 pm

That letter made me so angry last week I kept clicking over to Snarkfest to see if it was up and I could post it. Ugh, the idea that this young woman is making this very brave decision that will ultimately help someone else form their family and is getting lambasted for it by her sister. Awful.

The sister does seem to have some out-of-the ordinary issues, though. I wonder if she got pregnant unexpectedly and has felt trapped ever since.

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Post  Poubelle on Sat Oct 22, 2011 7:21 pm

I just do NOT get what is entitled about giving up your baby for adoption. Going through pregnancy and labor and then giving the kid away? That's not the easy way out. (Actually, I'm not sure there is an easy way out of an unplanned pregnancy, except finding out your test result was wrong.) The older sister might not understand the choice, but it's not her life.

Also, "she got herself into this mess"? YOU MENTION THE FATHER AT THE BEGINNING OF YOUR LETTER, DUMBASS. Anyone who says something like that about a woman who is unexpectedly pregnant should be forced to take remedial sex ed classes where they learn it takes two to tango and no form of birth control outside of abstinence (and gay sex, I suppose) is 100% effective. Yes, perfectly-used condoms are 98% effective. Maybe the sister was just part of the unlucky 2%.
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Post  Unlucky Bear on Sat Oct 22, 2011 9:28 pm

I know! Like, no wonder your sister's giving your kid up for adoption. She's gotta keep it away from nutbags like the LW.
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Post  Eris Rising on Sat Oct 22, 2011 10:53 pm

Links are working. Could someone link it?
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Post  Unlucky Bear on Sun Oct 23, 2011 12:49 am

Linky goodness
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Post  oxymoron on Sun Oct 23, 2011 1:51 am

Good Lord, babies are not punishments. they should not be looked at this way.

I mean, m sister kept her baby when she was 19, but she had a supportive not insane (well, about THIS anyway) family. And none of us looked at the baby as some sort of retribution.

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Post  Eris Rising on Sun Oct 23, 2011 4:24 am

After reading that, I'm not sure that I'd want to leave a child of mine with that sister. What sort of values would it learn? Adoption seems the right choice.
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Post  Binky on Tue Oct 25, 2011 4:49 pm

Ah yes, the "My sister should have to keep her baby. That'll teach her." logic. Sister sounds a lot more responsible and reasonable than the LW. With family 'supporting' her like that, poor sister.
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Post  punkysdilemma on Tue Oct 25, 2011 8:08 pm

Um, meow?

Not sure what side of the bed Amy got up on, but I sure didn't think of her as someone who could be this slappy towards someone on public assistance.
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Post  Unlucky Bear on Tue Oct 25, 2011 8:21 pm

Wow, that was shitty. The LW worded that sentence badly, but still. That was totally not a helpful answer. And the little dig about having kids while on welfare at the end was a nice touch.
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Post  The Lady of Shalott on Tue Oct 25, 2011 9:00 pm

So, the question is basically "Why won't my fiance help me with the kids, and how can I change things?" and Amy's answer is "A correction: You are not supporting your kids. A lot of people are. By accepting public assistance, you are accepting the public's collective investment in you." Really? REALLY? And she counsels to see a social worker, and break up with him if he can't get it together? Sheesh, what happened to "try having a serious talk with him and then try couples' therapy?"
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Post  Unlucky Bear on Mon Oct 31, 2011 9:05 pm

Dear Prudie: Is it OK to turn away children I don't think live in my neighborhood on Halloween? I'm curious as to how she was going to weed out the neighbor kids from the others.

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Post  Lily Rose on Mon Oct 31, 2011 9:16 pm

Man, the letter about the woman who fantasizes about finding her adopted sister's birth mother is really weird. I just do not even know what to think about that.

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Post  Guest on Mon Oct 31, 2011 9:21 pm

Regarding the stingy trick or treater, I couldn't understand how that situation was such a big problem! If it annoys you so much lady, give kids knocking at your door, less candy so there is enough to go round! Resolved!

The sister obsessed with her sister's birth mother is strange. That's a lady who needs to find something to do, like meaningful volunteering, so she can stop obsessing over her sister's life. Who knows what goes on inside people's minds right?

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Post  Sheli on Mon Oct 31, 2011 11:13 pm

I'm just glad the advice was for the woman to back off and consider her own mother as her sister's mother. Not advocating ignoring the role birth parents play in adopted children's lives, but if your own sister isn't interested in finding them? If I was the sister or the mom of the letter writer, that would really hurt me.

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Post  Jasmine on Mon Nov 07, 2011 8:58 pm

From Prudie's chat today:
EATING MY CUPCAKES
Hi Prudie, Yesterday I got a gift of a dozen large cupcakes. I ate one and brought one down to my boyfriend. I left the others in a kitchen that I share with two roommates, with a sign on them that said "Eat me." I was gone from 10PM last night to 9AM this morning, and when I returned all the cupcakes were gone. I think my (generally inconsiderate) roommate must have had people over and they ate all my cupcakes. I'm pretty annoyed but my boyfriend says that it's my own fault because I put the sign on them. I was really happy to share with my roommates but was definitely not expecting that in doing so all the cupcakes would be gone in less than 12 hours. Am I off base?

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EMILY YOFFE :
Hey, Alice in Wonderland, I assume you know that generally people follow instructions when there is something yummy with a sign on it that says "Eat Me." And for all you kids anticipating taking the SATs, here's an example of someone who wanted to have her cupcakes while letting her friends eat them, too. Your boyfriend is a wise man, and you're off base.

She left a sign saying "Eat Me" and then is mad that they all got eaten? I do not even understand.

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Post  punkysdilemma on Mon Nov 07, 2011 9:06 pm

Her roommate failed to read the real meaning of the sign, which exists in her head! OMGWTFBBQ
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Post  biakbiak on Mon Nov 07, 2011 9:14 pm

If I came home and saw cupcakes with a sign that said Eat Me, I would assume I was doing a favor by eating them!
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